Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Yard Sale

On Sunday, S and I had a yard sale. We've had quite a few over the years, especially with K, and we always have fun. Our yard sale was mostly a bust- metaphorical tumbleweeds were blowing through, and it was the coldest day of the year- but it was a lovely excuse to spend a few hours with my dear friend, and with few customers, we had plenty of time to talk and reconnect.

Lots of time to just watch the trees sway in the strong wind. A beautiful yellow butterfly was grounded, seemingly by the powerful wind. It landed on the front walkway, and didn't move again, even after lots of encouragement from S. A hummingbird spent some time among the birds of paradise. The cold set in. It started to rain.

Yard sales always seem to bring out some truly outrageous characters, but on Sunday, we met only a handful of very polite people. It was pleasant, but I couldn't help but be a tad disappointed by the lack of drama. Think of the blog, people! I need some organically outrageous stories! (At a yard sale with K years ago, a woman arrived with a pot bellied pig, and her van indeed resembled a pig sty. That was the sort of encounter I was counting on!)

We were literally closing up, when an older woman burst onto the scene, talking animatedly and very loudly on her cell phone. She nearly walked right into my house, then turned and wandered the yard while engaging in a very noisy phone call in another language. S and I were amused and satisfied- FINALLY, our outrageous customer had arrived!

While talking- no, shouting- and gesticulating on the phone, she bent down, picked up the butterfly, and placed it upon our yard sale wares. The butterfly- seemingly lifeless for nearly an hour- stirred, then started to fly! S and I were mesmerized. Was our outrageous yard sale customer also a healer? A healer of butterflies, no less?!

She finally got off the phone and apologized to us for her conversation. We exchanged pleasantries, and then she remarked upon the towering tree that hangs over our front yard. She said it is an Iranian tut (pronounced "toot") tree. (A quick Google search seems to indicate that tut is a mulberry tree.) She regaled us with tales of buying this fruit from a fruit vendor every morning as a child in Iran, about her marriage and divorce, about the tut tree in the yard of the home she shared with her (now ex) husband and how it took her 8 years to recognize the tree in her yard ("8 YEARS!" she screamed).

What I loved most about our outrageous character was that despite her outrageousness, which initially reduced her to a caricature, she was so very lovely and human. When she strode into the yard, screaming into her cell phone, I expected to write a tart little entry making fun of this character of a woman. And she was/is a character! But she is a character in the best sense- a larger than life personality who actually possesses character. She really took the time to connect with us, sharing memories, breaking through the polite chit chat of strangers to really communicate. S and I both enjoyed this encounter immensely, and it brings a smile to my face today as I type.

Monday, March 22, 2010

Birds of a feather...

Our writers group is utterly precious, and I adore each of the women as individuals as well as the 4 of us as a group. Right now I can't stop laughing at the fact that K & I both locked ourselves out of our OWN DAMN BLOGS on day 2 of this little adventure. M is probably deliberately deleting her account as I type, and S... Does S ever make a mistake? Hmmmmmm. Seriously doubtful. Which brings me to 2 awesome people I need to acknowledge: S & K. S because of AND despite her inability to err, and K for so gracefully laughing, especially when the joke's on her. (as well as a zillion other reasons- all of you!)

"The only disability is a bad attitude"

Up at 5:30 this morning, pleased that I'd have some time to write this blog before the big girl got up. Full of inspiration and energy, I fed the little one, then sat down to write. And I couldn't log on. "Invalid password" again and again. I knew it was right. I just set up the account yesterday. I tried and tried and tried, to no avail.

Needless to say, my attitude needed an adjustment. Then, I read my dear friend's blog, in which she detailed her irritation and need for an attitude adjustment. Which reminded me of Scott Hamilton's words, "The only disability is a bad attitude".

I think I first came upon these words in the context of "special needs" kids. Conjuring images of the short bus and alienation. I am super sensitive about special needs. So sensitive that I'm not ready to write about it yet.

So for now, thank you M for reminding me that the color of my day is always in my hands. It was a hard day, but a pretty good one, and I can thank my pretty, funny, talented, runner-Mommy-writer friend for steering me in the right direction. M, you're an awesome person!

Oh, and the password? It was right. The login name (one that I chose only 1 day ago) was wrong. ENTIRELY my mistake. So, K, we all have blonde moments. And, S, I'm writing this fully dressed. I'll have to warm up to blogging before I let it all hang out...